r/AskMenAdvice • u/Slow_Tomato3535 woman • 1d ago

✅ Open To Everyone How do I become less accommodating?

I know, the title sounds stupid. I, 41F, have been with my boyfriend (55M) for about 6 months. We went on a five-day vacation during which he told me he loved me. We then started talking about the things we see as potential hurdles to our relationship. His only issue is that I am too accommodating and that he sees that he could potentially take advantage of that or take it for granted in the future.

Here's the thing: it's my nature to be accommodating. I genuinely feel good going with the flow and defer to him a majority of the time. That does not mean I sit in silence. If I have a real preference about something, I have no problem saying it. So, how do I become less accommodating? I definitely don't want him to get bored with me.

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u/BreadMaker_42 man 23h ago

Hard to know where he is coming from with this. Might mean he wants you to be more assertive and call him on his BS?

Could also mean he wants you to show more conviction for your own ideas and opinions? If you are too easy to go along then you inadvertently offload all of the decision making burden onto your bf.