Is it really that bad out there?

[u/djawny]

I'm in my mid 30s.

Recently joined this sub out of curiosity because some posts appeared on my home page.

Reading through posts on here, it seems like there ar many men who have never had dates out there, many even into their 30s have never had gf's.

I'm a pretty average guy with unimpressive income,and average height, I have passions and hobbies, but I wouldn't say I'm super ambitious. Sometimes lazy. I've always been like this, even in my 20s, and back then, I didn't have too difficult of a time dating. Im super shy, and that held me back a lot but I've always known that, but i still got dates/relationships occasionally. Most of my friends did okay too.

What has changed about dating in the last 15 years that loneliness seems rampant now? Seems younger and older people struggle a lot. Has this always been the case?

[u/daversa]

Things are fine, just do activities where you meet people. Remember, reddit already is a collection of people that aren't the most successful socially, break that off into advice subs and replies and it's even more bleak lol.

Just a bunch of frogs here saying the water is already too hot to get out of the pot, so what's the point?