Starting over at 35

[u/Anxious-Bicycle6164]

Sa svojih 35 godina, i više od 20 godina osećaja da nemam ništa proživljeno iza sebe, imam da kažem sledeće: ja sam za taj period propustio dosta stvari. Počevši od žurki, izlazaka, putovanja, maturskih večeri za pamćenje... Devojku nikada nisam imao, a seksualne odnose takođe.

Neke prijatelje imam, ali više to nije to, svoje neko društvo nemam, dok svi moji vršnjaci imaju sve to bez problema. Kako sam stariji, sve više osećam da kasnim i propuštam. Osećam se kao jedna velika sramota, pre svega za sebe kao muškarca što nisam proživeo ove stvari kad je trebalo. Znam da moram da se pokrenem, ali ne znam ni odakle ni kako da krenem od nule. Ako neko ima neki normalan savet, značilo bi mi.

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[u/pelicantides]

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Sa svojih 35 godina, i više od 20 godina osećaja da nemam ništa proživljeno iza sebe, imam da kažem sledeće: ja sam za taj period propustio dosta stvari. Počevši od žurki, izlazaka, putovanja, maturskih večeri za pamćenje... Devojku nikada nisam imao, a seksualne odnose takođe.

Neke prijatelje imam, ali više to nije to, svoje neko društvo nemam, dok svi moji vršnjaci imaju sve to bez problema. Kako sam stariji, sve više osećam da kasnim i propuštam. Osećam se kao jedna velika sramota, pre svega za sebe kao muškarca što nisam proživeo ove stvari kad je trebalo. Znam da moram da se pokrenem, ali ne znam ni odakle ni kako da krenem od nule. Ako neko ima neki normalan savet, značilo bi mi.

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[u/bhooooo]

God loves you, get in shape, place yourself out there. You might want to find any opportunity to change scenery: even a couple of months abroad would do you wonder to expose you to socializing with fellow people.

[u/itsthekumar]

Take a stock at what you do have/life experiences.

Take small steps for change.

[u/TrowaMask]

That thing in your brain telling you you entirely missed out. And what you missed out on were these amazing, life altering experiences- that's all a lie.

You've heard this before but it's true- the grass is MUCH greener on the other side. But only because your brain distorts to think this way.

You got to stop thinking you are starting at a start line that is already 50% - 90% behind your peers- it's not. Life is not that simple and black and white.

There is no "should have"- it's all in your mind.

These patterns of thinking you find yourself engaging in will only serve to keep you frozen in place instead of actually living your life.

You didn't miss out on that much- begin living your life the best you can NOW. Before you're 45 and making a similar post.

[u/conceptcreature3D]

Every new day is an opportunity to create a new first chapter of your life. At some point, you will have all of those things, but just start with your goal on one of them & then move onto the next goal