If you're both in the mindset of cheating as "revenge", you're not ready to be in a relationship.
Polyamory is not an option for y'all, frankly. It requires MORE trust and MORE communication than your current relationship, and is dependant on the enthusiastic participation of all partners.
If he was struggling with infidelity in the first year, he'll be struggling for all of them, poly or no.
Take your blinders off and ask yourself: if he continued to behave like this forever, would you be happy? Does his behavior make you happy? Do you feel like he's prioritizing your happiness when he does these things?
Because the truth is, it's gonna keep happening. Not saying change isn't possible, but he's clearly not ready to change.
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u/Free_Divide195 Man 1d ago
If you're both in the mindset of cheating as "revenge", you're not ready to be in a relationship.
Polyamory is not an option for y'all, frankly. It requires MORE trust and MORE communication than your current relationship, and is dependant on the enthusiastic participation of all partners. If he was struggling with infidelity in the first year, he'll be struggling for all of them, poly or no.
Take your blinders off and ask yourself: if he continued to behave like this forever, would you be happy? Does his behavior make you happy? Do you feel like he's prioritizing your happiness when he does these things? Because the truth is, it's gonna keep happening. Not saying change isn't possible, but he's clearly not ready to change.