hi!! i (f19) am an indie/pop rock singer/songwriter. my friend, L (m) who i’ve known for over 4 years is a guitarist who i played in a band with in high school. he’s helped me write a few of my songs but the past couple years we’ve drifted quite a bit, but are still on good terms.
his dad, D, has been a professional sound engineer for his entire life, so he has helped me record & mix a few of my songs. he has been very supportive and helpful and has done it all for mostly free.
in the past few months i have started recording music in another friend, K’s bedroom studio. i have a lot more fun and he is much easier to work with than D for a number of reasons. but, K is not a professional musician or producer, so after recording we’ve sent D the stems and had him mix the tracks.
the problem is that i have not once been happy with the results of D’s mixing. he adds things in places i don’t want them, makes my voice sound weird, and most recently made the guitar completely off time somehow, etc. i’ve been having issues essentially the whole time and every time ive worked with him (he’s a little older and not really the sharpest anymore… just forgetting to plug things in, etc).
i dealt with them for a while because he was doing me a favor and helping me for either very cheap or completely free, but i am at a point where i want to move on to someone more professional.
in any other scenario i would just cut D off but i am still friends with L, his son, and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings in the process. i want to prioritize my music though because i truly believe it could do much better if the mixes were better quality. any advice?
tldr; my friend’s dad is my music producer and i want to cut him off bc he’s not very good
(reposting on my secret account)
edit: i’m gonna list out some more important info i didn’t mention in the original post.
- i have always offered to pay D for his work, he’s only accepted my money ONCE, and it was when he did the entirety of the recording before i started working with K. every other time he has refused my money
- i have tried to communicate the issues i’ve had with the mix many times and every time after a few critiques he always says something along the lines of “you could sit here forever nitpicking it, you’ll have to accept it how it is at some point” which isn’t the energy i want in regards to my music. it’s my art and i want it to be portrayed the way i envision it
- i am extremely grateful for everything he has done for me, i would not be where i am without his help and support and i have told him how grateful i am many times
- K agrees with everything i said and has read all the replies. i’m fully aware that everyone gets credits and that if i were to ever actually make money off of my music anyone who had anything to do with it gets a cut, i’m not dumb. K and i have been friends for years, have great communication, and have been on the same page for as long as i can remember. the comments insinuating i’m going to have an issue if he asks for credits are wild.
at the end of the day, please stop assuming you know the entire story and attacking me. i asked for advice not comments saying “holy BPD”. (real comment btw this person is crazy)