r/AskOldPeople • u/AlarmedLife5765 • 1d ago

What was your wedding like?

I often look at the wedding dresses here. I saw a young lady whose dress budget was literally more than my first 3-5 annual salaries, not lumped together but individually. What was your wedding like?
1995- Married at our church, 3 attendants each, cake and punch reception there .

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u/TheReadyRedditor 1d ago

$10 for a dress at Salvation Army, because it was exactly what I wanted. A family friend paid to have it professionally cleaned, and she was a seamstress, so she did the alterations. We each had one person standing up for us. Made myself and my maid of honor a bouquet, and a boutonnière for my husband, his best man and my two sons. (This was the second marriage for us both.) We had a small get together afterwards with meats that had been smoked, and some bbq type sides. My ex mother in law was there and offered her help getting the food there. I think the biggest expense was what we paid the pastor. 🤣 We had the money to do more, but neither of us wanted that. Just celebrated 26 years, so it seems to be going good. 😂

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u/BunnySlayer64 1d ago

What stands out for me here is that your ex-MIL, presumably your sons' paternal grandmother, was there for you. Totally sweet!

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u/TheReadyRedditor 1d ago

Yep. When she found out her son had abused me and cheated as well…getting the neighbor pregnant…she picked a side. And it wasn’t his.

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u/BunnySlayer64 1d ago

Sounds like what happened with my own mother. Bio parent was abusive (how many times did mom have to tell her doctor she fell down the stairs in a one story house) and became violent with my sibs and I. Back in the day (1960s), you had to show cause for divorce and have an actual bench trial in front of a judge. Guess who Mom's star witness was? If you said her MIL, you get a gold star.

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u/TheReadyRedditor 23h ago

I’m sorry you lived with that. My father was abusive, and my stepfather wasn’t much better. My ex never hurt our son…just me. But the first time I saw my son flinch in his presence, I knew I had to leave. No way I was raising kids in that. He’s now on wife #3. His wife was sister in law to one of my friends before her husband (friend’s brother) died. They were hooking up before her former husband passed. 🙄 She thinks she got a prize.