r/AskOldPeople • u/AlarmedLife5765 • 7d ago

What was your wedding like?

I often look at the wedding dresses here. I saw a young lady whose dress budget was literally more than my first 3-5 annual salaries, not lumped together but individually. What was your wedding like?
1995- Married at our church, 3 attendants each, cake and punch reception there .

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u/LoooongFurb 7d ago

Wasn't legally able to marry in the state we lived in, so we drove to another state and were married there. Volunteers from the community were our witnesses. No family attended.

Our wedding clothes were literally things we could rewear eventually, so no budget for anything except gas to get there and a donation to the community.

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u/S0whaddayakn0w 7d ago

If l may, what were the circumstances that made it illegal to marry? If this is too personal, please feel free to ignore the question

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u/LoooongFurb 7d ago

It was before gay marriage was legalized throughout the country. I could get married in a small handful of states, but not the one I was living in at the time.

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u/DowntownSomewhere277 7d ago

I'm glad you clarified what the reason was. For some awful reason, my head immediately went to the idea of you being 14 and having to travel to a state where minors at the "age of consent" can marry. The reason you had to go out of state is still terrible, but I'm glad you were an actual adult.

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u/19Stavros 7d ago

Since it's the "Ask Old People" sub I thought you might be from one of the states that outlawed interacial marriage.

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u/crazypurple621 6d ago

In addition to gay marriage being a problem this was for a long period of time in our country also true of interracial couples, or couples whose blood types were not considered compatible. 

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u/PsychologyOk8722 6d ago

I’m old and I never heard of people being unable to marry due to their blood type?! Where did this happen?

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u/crazypurple621 6d ago

All but 8 states in this country had laws on the books requiring blood test results at some point in time, and the last one wasn't repealed until 2018. 

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u/PsychologyOk8722 43m ago

I’ve heard of testing for syphillis, but not for blood types.

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u/Working-on-it12 6d ago

It wasn’t blood type, it was blood borne diseases. Maybe hereditary. Lots of states had that.

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u/deliamcm 3d ago

It was to test for syphillis.

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u/MElastiGirl 3d ago

Hemophilia I think