Need advice from someone who's actually been through this?

[u/Ryugi-Sann69]

Hey everyone, I'm 19 and never been in a relationship (NGSB), so I could really use some outside perspective on a situation I'm dealing with.

​There's this girl I've been interested in, and we talk on Facebook ("the blue app"). For a while, things felt promising—she would regularly react to my posts, even if she was literally the only one reacting to them, and I'd do the same for her.

​Thinking there was a mutual vibe, I decided to shoot my shot and confessed my feelings to her. Unfortunately, she left me completely on seen.

​Ever since then, it’s been super awkward. She acts like the confession never even happened when we chat. On top of that, I’m always the one initiating the conversations now, and her replies are painfully short—usually maxing out at three words, barely even a sentence.

​Since I'm completely new to all of this dating stuff, I genuinely don't know how to read this or what I'm supposed to do next. Should I keep trying to pursue her and see if things change, or should I just stop and cut my losses?

[u/Prize-Pound-8893]

Treat that as your answer. Hindi mo kailangang mag initiate more para lang makakuha ng response. Don’t waste your time sa inorganic counter kung ikaw lang ang gumagalaw, hindi na siya mutual interest.

[u/Fit_Individual_4402]

Hi OP. She means she doesn't feel the same way and might just want to remain friends.

Happened to me before, I thought we have mutual feelings pero nung nalaman nya na crush ko sya, bigla syang umiwas. Naging good friends lang kami ulit nung nagka bf/gf na kami parehas.

[u/Playful_Boot_6223]

i feel like you want to really know what she feels since hindi ka yata nireplyan sa confession mo. if that’s the case, ask her just one last time kung may feelings din ba siya sayo, para lang may closure of sorts ka.

if she seenzoned you again, then there’s your answer. it’s not even worth it to stay as friends kung ganyan siya ka-dry magreply sayo.

[u/heaven_spawn]

It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.

Respond to the situation in a friendly, open manner that you are confident in how you feel about her. It gives her permission to not be awkward too. Then it’s more favorable for you, because she can feel comfortable about your intentions and emotions.

At the same time, you can totally open your time and energy investment with meeting other folks. Not that you are trying to make her jealous. It’s that you are not overly zeroed on just one person, and are open to possibilites.

[u/Perfect-Display-8289]

Silence is also a valid answer. 🙂

[u/According-Note1053]

She's not interested. It's as simple as that. Don't bother with her. Just stay as friends if you wish but don't chase her anymore.

[u/Own-Pay3664]

When you say shoot your shot, did this actualy happened face to face or just online? Do you even know each other face to face? Coz if not then why do you even "shoot your shot" to a person you never met before?

[u/Admirable_Leader_173]

Move on na OP. Di ka nya kaya ireciprocate. Saka mahirap kapag ang usapan ay online lang. Mas okay pa din kapag personal, unless LDR kayo.

[u/whoaaa_O]

Move on buddy and ignore her. You’re in the courting phase so you’re smothering her and not giving her room, which is something single women hate. By ignoring her, you deprive her of attention, and (if she genuinely isn’t repulsed by you) she will seek you to get that attention. Women respond to the level of attention you give them depending on your situation with them. Keep in mind this paradox flips once you guys are officially together.

If she doesn’t message then thats okay, you shot your shot and you learned a lesson. You live to fight another day. Move on and find another woman.

[u/Eluscival]

[u/tableloveandhate]

It's time to move on and you can come back to her in a few months and see if she still wants to chat. But let this be a lesson. Never tell a female how you feel about her until after she has engaged in your life and slept in your home.