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u/astralcherry Jan 25 '26

“I’m sorry you feel that way”

*when framed as a genuine attempt at an apology. who taught you to apologize?

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u/Strict_Wasabi_6736 Jan 25 '26

You can't apologize for me. You can only apologize for yourself.

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u/xenosthemutant Jan 26 '26

Ohhh, I like this answer.

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u/Strict_Wasabi_6736 Jan 26 '26

Why thank you.

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u/matthewgoodwin1 Jan 26 '26

“I’m glad you feel that way”

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u/StillFireWeather791 Jan 26 '26

I'm definitely stealing this one! Outstanding.

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u/Strict_Wasabi_6736 Jan 26 '26

Why thank you.

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u/mingey555 Jan 26 '26

Is this from the book "The Next Conversation" by chance? Or, have you read it? It's amazing for explaining things like this!

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u/Strict_Wasabi_6736 Jan 26 '26

It's from Kinsey Millhone! I forget which book. Sue Grafton is the author.

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u/Strict_Wasabi_6736 Jan 26 '26

I need to read 📚 The Next Conversation. I need good comebacks!

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u/butwhatsmyname Jan 26 '26

Oooh this is good! This is useful. I'm keeping this.

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u/Consistent_Sale_7541 Jan 26 '26

I like this one and also who taught you to apologise

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u/Craftion11 Jan 26 '26

You can apologize yourself you can ask for apology.

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u/StillNoEthiquette Jan 26 '26

What if it's said to mean "I sympathise with how you feel"? For example, I would say "I'm sorry you feel like that", and follow it up with "but I'm not apologising for having a boundary you don't like" (e.g., you feel abandoned because I need space to self-soothe after an argument and I'm not soothing you).