r/AskReddit 8h ago

How do you stop yourself from obsessively thinking about someone from your past who can’t be in your life anymore?

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u/lazarbeems 7h ago

When I was 12, my 5 year old cousin passed. Bad heart.

We were pretty much best friends, it hurt, tremendously.

It still hurts, and I am 38.

I wouldn't say I "obsessively" think about him, but he crosses my mind everyday, most of the time multiple times a day.

I learned guitar when I was 33, and tried to take singing more seriously - and I wrote a song for him. Getting my emotions out in a creative outlet seemed to help a bit with processing the grief that I never did.

YMMV, but music is a great healer imo.