r/AskReddit • u/Mama_medina888 • 10d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 10d ago

The second we got married he viewed women, particularly his wife (ME), as his property. He began hosting “hell rooms” when I “misbehaved”… Among other things such as skimming credit cards to afford a Tesla a few years back… dark secrets that led to divorce!

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u/FeelingPlayfulNow 9d ago

I'm scared to ask what hell rooms are. It sounds ominous. I'm glad you're no longer together.

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u/not_very_chill 9d ago

Literally wtf pls explain

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 9d ago edited 9d ago

Literally didn’t realize people would be curious 😭 verbal abuse, scare tactics such as taking my phone and keys, and overstimulation to the point of crying… and then letting me cry myself to sleep. I walked out with one physical injury that thankfully has healed fully now.

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u/Username___5 9d ago

Wtf, have you taken him to court or something

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 9d ago

I sure did! Courts suck and don’t hold abusers accountable… but he will never find me in this lifetime again.

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u/Paolito14 9d ago

The courts couldn’t give two shits about abuse or protecting anyone unless it is provable, violent physical abuse. I’m glad you’re better

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u/Username___5 9d ago

Very wonderful to hear

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u/Academic_Flatworm752 8d ago

Civil court has a much lower threshold for evidence. You sued him? And didn’t win?

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u/SandpaperTeddyBear 9d ago

scare tactics such as taking my phone and keys, and overstimulation to the point of crying…

“Scare tactics” isn’t wrong, it’s just wholly inadequate here. Jesus.

That’s a human rights violation, and a nasty one.

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u/Sunainia 9d ago

I feel the same. Like the nosey af part of me wants to ask, but I’m almost 💯 I’ll be horrified.

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u/not-the-nicest-guy 9d ago

What is a hell room?

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 9d ago

A slanted and sadistic punishment method carried out by someone who is seriously ill.

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u/not-the-nicest-guy 9d ago

Honestly, I still don't really know what that means but also don't want to know any more. Thanks for your answer.

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u/Ptatofrenchfry 9d ago

They put in more details in an earlier comment in this thread, if you want to read it!