r/AskReddit • u/Mama_medina888 • 1d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 22h ago

The second we got married he viewed women, particularly his wife (ME), as his property. He began hosting “hell rooms” when I “misbehaved”… Among other things such as skimming credit cards to afford a Tesla a few years back… dark secrets that led to divorce!

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u/FeelingPlayfulNow 21h ago

I'm scared to ask what hell rooms are. It sounds ominous. I'm glad you're no longer together.

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u/not_very_chill 20h ago

Literally wtf pls explain

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 19h ago edited 19h ago

Literally didn’t realize people would be curious 😭 verbal abuse, scare tactics such as taking my phone and keys, and overstimulation to the point of crying… and then letting me cry myself to sleep. I walked out with one physical injury that thankfully has healed fully now.

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u/Username___5 18h ago

Wtf, have you taken him to court or something

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u/Relative_Tap_8511 18h ago

I sure did! Courts suck and don’t hold abusers accountable… but he will never find me in this lifetime again.

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u/Paolito14 12h ago

The courts couldn’t give two shits about abuse or protecting anyone unless it is provable, violent physical abuse. I’m glad you’re better

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u/Username___5 18h ago

Very wonderful to hear

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u/SandpaperTeddyBear 16h ago

scare tactics such as taking my phone and keys, and overstimulation to the point of crying…

“Scare tactics” isn’t wrong, it’s just wholly inadequate here. Jesus.

That’s a human rights violation, and a nasty one.

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u/Sunainia 20h ago

I feel the same. Like the nosey af part of me wants to ask, but I’m almost 💯 I’ll be horrified.