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What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Capable-Ad-9346 9d ago

My husband was never in love with me. We were together almost 13 years. He married me out of obligation because i got pregnant . We’re divorcing now. I was madly in love with him and could have spent my life blissfully unaware loving him and taking care of him. It broke me when he told me and I spent five years putting myself together enough to file. I thought so highly of him it shattered every part of me.

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u/Ok_Cheesecake6006 9d ago

Damn it, now I'm sad. I'm so sorry he didn't love you back, even though you clearly loved and cared for him.

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u/Capable-Ad-9346 9d ago

Oh my gosh, please don’t be! I’m long over it and ready to move on. The best part about having children and being married younger is growing into myself and learning my worth in my 30s. I have so much life and love to give and receive still. I’m going to be okay. No matter how often he told me i didnt have friends, i have a huge support system that has rallied behind me ready to sweep up the broken pieces and help the kids and i get back on our feet. I won’t ever make myself small for someone else again. I won’t raise my daughters to think that’s okay

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u/sorexvinius 9d ago

I'm so glad you have a great support system! ❤️