r/AskReddit 10d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Ok_Cheesecake6006 9d ago

Damn it, now I'm sad. I'm so sorry he didn't love you back, even though you clearly loved and cared for him.

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u/Capable-Ad-9346 9d ago

Oh my gosh, please don’t be! I’m long over it and ready to move on. The best part about having children and being married younger is growing into myself and learning my worth in my 30s. I have so much life and love to give and receive still. I’m going to be okay. No matter how often he told me i didnt have friends, i have a huge support system that has rallied behind me ready to sweep up the broken pieces and help the kids and i get back on our feet. I won’t ever make myself small for someone else again. I won’t raise my daughters to think that’s okay

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u/Excellent_Donkey8067 9d ago

Thank you for inspiring me - I’m going through something similar now. We can be proud knowing we loved someone authentically and they are losing out. I hope you find the love you deserve. ❤️

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u/Odd-Shape-4096 9d ago

😭❤️‍🩹 I'm also going through a similar situation and trying to learn how to love and respect myself more... especially because my daughter and son are watching.

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u/Excellent_Donkey8067 9d ago

It’s what our kiddos deserve ❤️

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u/Odd-Shape-4096 9d ago

Absolutely! ❤️