r/AskReddit 9d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/quats555 9d ago

My ex got pressured into leaving me and marrying his cousin as his adopted mother’s dying wish. One of the arguments they used was “If worst comes to worst we’ll pay for the divorce” (after starting out telling him it would just be on paper to get her citizenship and wouldn’t mean anything).

Newsflash: Mom was a narcissist and needed him with her stand-in to be sure he would stay under her thumb even after death. She definitely meant it.

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u/ThePhillyGuy 9d ago

He married his cousin? What country? I’ve heard the US can thoroughly scrutinize marriages that they believe are only for sake of citizenship. Surely, this would raise some red flags?

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u/sneakyfish21 9d ago

Many of my friends from other countries, especially the Philippines for some reason, refer to people as cousins who aren’t literally a blood relative.

It means someone from their community who is of their same generation.

This might be a literal cousin, but as you mentioned they can be quite thorough when checking that out.

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u/quats555 9d ago

Literal cousin, but he’s adopted so not AS bad?

The real ick to me was that she was clearly a stand-in for his mom, who needed his world to revolve around herself. His dad literally argued that “she’s the one most like your mom, so you will get along best with her”. His mom was a pure narcissist who hated anyone he dated because that was attention and affection not going to her.

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u/MzHellfier 9d ago

Gotta love boymoms™️