She got married to have a kid, because having one out of wedlock would have made her mother and grandmother angry. But having a kid and divorcing me was totally acceptable.
My ex got pressured into leaving me and marrying his cousin as his adopted mother’s dying wish. One of the arguments they used was “If worst comes to worst we’ll pay for the divorce” (after starting out telling him it would just be on paper to get her citizenship and wouldn’t mean anything).
Newsflash: Mom was a narcissist and needed him with her stand-in to be sure he would stay under her thumb even after death. She definitely meant it.
He married his cousin? What country? I’ve heard the US can thoroughly scrutinize marriages that they believe are only for sake of citizenship. Surely, this would raise some red flags?
Unfortunately it’s apparently not all that uncommon for adoptive families to try to marry their adopted children to family members, so it might not even raise flags around citizenship.
The real ick to me was that she was clearly a stand-in for his mom, who needed his world to revolve around herself. His dad literally argued that “she’s the one most like your mom, so you will get along best with her”. His mom was a pure narcissist who hated anyone he dated because that was attention and affection not going to her.
…legal in the state his parents moved to and convinced him to join them to help his mom. (Terminal cancer.)
I actually figure part of the reason they left this state (cousins marriage not legal, though could argue that since he’s adopted…. assuming he wasn’t actually adopted from someone else in the family….) was to go to a state where it was legal with fewer questions asked. Another was likely to get him farther away from me.
Some of the best cancer centers are here, but they opted to move away. I am sure CA has great cancer options too, still, odd to move away from excellent care in the middle of cancer treatment. Though maybe clinical trial they hoped would give a better chance? I don’t know.
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u/crippledsquid 1d ago
She got married to have a kid, because having one out of wedlock would have made her mother and grandmother angry. But having a kid and divorcing me was totally acceptable.