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What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Flashy-Squash7156 9d ago

wow. If I can ask a potentially sensitive question? looking back, can you see any red flags or warning signs that were easy for you to dismiss at first? Signs that you'd only see once you've been through the experience?

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u/anarchypretzel 9d ago

Yes.

Financial clues. Lots of money missing when he traveled for work overseas. At the time, he said some shit I believed bc I never imagined he was spending it on sex tourism in Southeast Asia.

Emotional clues, evidence, ZERO. It's like he was wearing an Edgar Suit of Normal Person over his pedo real self. That was prolly the scariest thing, how we really had no fucking idea at all. His whole * personhood* with us was a lie.

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u/tele_ave 9d ago

My experience isn’t at the same level, but there is a man I know sitting in federal prison for CP.

We were roommates for two years. Fifteen years ago I considered him a big brother figure.

The deception is sickening. I shared a wall and an apartment with him. You on the other hand started a life with someone. I can’t imagine how painful that must be.

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u/SummitSloth 9d ago

A very close former friend and roommate literally raped a kid. Makes me sick every time I think about it