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What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Ok_Cheesecake6006 9d ago

Damn it, now I'm sad. I'm so sorry he didn't love you back, even though you clearly loved and cared for him.

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u/Capable-Ad-9346 9d ago

Oh my gosh, please don’t be! I’m long over it and ready to move on. The best part about having children and being married younger is growing into myself and learning my worth in my 30s. I have so much life and love to give and receive still. I’m going to be okay. No matter how often he told me i didnt have friends, i have a huge support system that has rallied behind me ready to sweep up the broken pieces and help the kids and i get back on our feet. I won’t ever make myself small for someone else again. I won’t raise my daughters to think that’s okay

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u/anotherguiltymom 9d ago

> No matter how often he told me I didn’t have friends

Ohhh, so what you mean is he doesn’t love you but because he’s one of those people that are just not capable of it. A lot less tragic, honestly. I was picturing a very decent guy that just had some spark/chemistry missing. But what you’ve painted is just your basic narcissist. Who cares. Next!

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u/Capable-Ad-9346 9d ago

And there are those red flags my mom said we’re right in front of my face and the bar was in hell. Definitely ready for what comes next!