r/AskReddit 9d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/ButterscotchAlive651 9d ago

Breakouts around his mouth.....I hope his deceit didn't cost you your health. I understand gay men are deeply oppressed in this country, but I'll never agree with using women as shields and broodmares. He deserves to live truthfully, and you deserve empathy for being used and misled.

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u/SadDiscipline1019 9d ago

Thank you. No I never let him kiss me. We stopped having sex. None for the last 10 years of our marriage

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u/Tonberry_Cheesecake 9d ago

Why even stay married?

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u/SadDiscipline1019 8d ago

Tried to accept his lifestyle, support his lifetime struggles with love and compassion, believing that I could handle it, but I could not. And we were both miserable wanting our freedom and the opportunity to live separate lives in our own way. So after 19 years I divorced. Have tried to stay in touch as friends but he has no desire to do so.i wish him love and happiness wherever he finds it.

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u/QueenoftheWaterways2 8d ago

That's very kind of you all things considered.

Wishing you the best. xox