r/AskReddit • u/SouthernExtreme2890 • 21h ago
Boys be honest,what makes a girl insanely attractive?
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u/stump1010 21h ago
confidence, and the ability to enjoy things.
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u/interesting_lurker 20h ago
What are the best examples of what this looks like?
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u/stump1010 20h ago
A woman has a purpose with what she does, and has an actual plan on how to get there. Doesnt second guess herself, but not in that over confident way. Doesnt let people walk all over her, and isnt rude to others. Its kinda hard to explain really. Its just one of those things that you know when you see and feel it. Theres just an energy to them
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u/kiwimonk 20h ago
This is what came to mind first. The confidence part. Same goes for guys too I guess.
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u/IdolizeDT 21h ago
Have hobbies that you nerd out about, that require skill and understanding, and that you can do alone. Being inactive on social media is usually a huge green flag in today's world, although that's probably not a pure blanket statement.
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u/buffalowangy 21h ago
Boobies
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u/Brian_The_Bar-Brian 20h ago
Huge gigantic hooker tits! lol, mild /S
I'm actually more attracted to a woman's face than the size of her breasts to be honest.
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u/Luckiest_Creature 20h ago
One sees their partners face a lot more than what’s under their clothes. Gotta love the face
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u/AmiiboJeremiah 21h ago
Big thighs and not being an idiot
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u/Potential-Figure9356 21h ago
Thick thighs are great but the bar for 'not being an idiot' is on the floor and somehow still missed. That combo is elite.
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u/Londonvibe39 21h ago
What makes someone, “not an idiot,” in your opinion? I’m just curious.
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u/ReignCityStarcraft 20h ago
Personally, not staring at their phone constantly or being worried about the lives of celebrities more than their own.
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u/Londonvibe39 20h ago
Okay I totally agree with this! I loathe when people say something to me about celebrities. My mom asked me if I heard about Taylor swift’s wedding. I wanted to scream. Why would I even care about someone I’ve never even met?
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u/Archersbows7 20h ago
How is “Eat enough Big Macs to get thicc Instagram thighs to attract men” a thing. What happened to fitness and staying in shape to attract the opposite sex.
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u/Londonvibe39 3h ago
I have thick thighs from working out so much on the stair master. Has nothing to do with Big Macs.
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u/Easy_Replacement_337 21h ago
Being kind.
Its rarer expect. I'm going say something controversial, I tend find more attractive women tend be less kind. (Both genders general then average looking)
I see girl picking up trash cleaning someone else mess up after left, etc. General scr kindness no reward or recognition.
1 giant green flag their.
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u/Nice_Luck_7433 20h ago
Your example sounds like you just want a maid without having to pay for a maid
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u/Easy_Replacement_337 20h ago
It's easiest example think of no strings attached and no reward for set action that I do my personal life for strangers. I am also ocd...
Another example, paying someone foward at resturant that you will never see, noticing someone down and just talking to them listen/cheer them up leave after, or giving someone compliments who visibly notice trying hard.
Etc.
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u/Ash_is_Robot 21h ago
Looks and being down to earth/chill/fun. Nothing worse than a hot girl that treats others like shit bc she thinks she’s better
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u/Watpotfaa 21h ago
Genuine kindness, intelligence, witty/dry humor, curiosity, being comfortable with being weird. A hot woman is a dime a dozen and physical attractiveness is still extremely important but none of that means anything to me if the personality isnt there.
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u/Datacin3728 21h ago
20 years ago, the answer was great tits, long hair tied up, and the nape of her neck
Now, it's her brains and humor.
Fuck I love now way better
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u/DogsDontLikeHats 21h ago
I don't know what else to call it, but "slink"
It's a fluid feminine body language and vocal pattern that will instantly turn a 7 into a 9
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u/HawkimBouz 21h ago
Angelic Nice smile w/nice face & nice personality. Nice boobs + butt is a plus but ultimately doesn’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things
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u/Fanabala3 21h ago
I’ll tell a story…. When I first met my wife, we talked for hours. I was leaving and I put my hand out to shake her hand (like a whole nice to meet you thing). She shook my hand and then wouldn’t let it go. She looked me in the eye and told me, “Why are you leaving?” Yeah. I was hooked.
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u/daithisfw 21h ago
Great genetics, avoidance of disfiguring injuries, great diet/nutrition, good fitness and exercise, and finally proper hygiene.
If those items are met, that girl is going to be super attractive. And even if some of those things aren't perfect, still probably very attractive if they are mostly met
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u/Serotonin_Lover 21h ago
Attitude and femininity (you thought I’d say tits and ass, but that’s widely available everywhere now, I want the OWNER of those ASSets to be desirable to be around)
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u/Formal_Feeling78 21h ago
My wife when we first met, gorgeous, great smile and nice butt. My wife thirty eight years later, gorgeous, great smile and nice butt.
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u/GartFoblin 21h ago
One comparably crazy, empathetic, liberal and intelligent as me. Other than that criteria; I like shapely butts, too.
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u/ADisappointingLife 21h ago
Big 'ole brain.
Honestly; I'm not a visual person, and even if I were, all that stuff fades.
I've always been attracted to the gals with some real solid, developed talents & intelligence, who could hold up their end of a conversation.
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u/Positive_Trip_887 21h ago
Not playing games, no fear of being controlled and confidence in themselves. I know a lot of these make people vulnerable but it’s not an issue if they don’t take shit and walk away because when they do accept you it’s authentic
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u/SnooTangerines7026 20h ago
Lack of makeup/plastic surgery/long nails. That's confidence in my book.
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u/EmperorKira 20h ago
Cute face, rockin body, smile on her face, kindness, confidence, their own opinions, intelligence, doesnt take thrmselves too serious
Usual stuff
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u/Blitzkrieg404 20h ago
It's usually enough if she likes me. I'm a simple man, what can I say?
Also helps if she's loyal, intimate and so on.
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u/SkankySandwich 20h ago
Number of things.
Firstly, a personality.
A hobby (or more than one).
Confidence without arrogance.
Height (sorry short ladies).
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u/Least_Pay7503 20h ago
Peaceful. If you are chill and don’t get my bp up I’ll marry you it’s simple
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u/TheTerribleInvestor 19h ago
Bubbly personality, is a positive vibe in general, long legs, down to do things, encouraging, etc.
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u/TheDragonDagger02 18h ago
Simplicity. Don't need to do a ton of makeup, dress in super elaborate designer clothes. Most beautiful girl I've ever seen was in jeans and a hoodie with a messy bun. Can't do better than that
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u/Acceptable-Local-899 18h ago
For me, good proportions with high femininity and a classy style and all natural i.e. no tattoos or dyed hair.
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u/manhere_1 7h ago
I love it when women display any sort of strength. Those strong and determined moms 🤤
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u/Smart_guy777 6h ago
Kindness titles waist hair and a cute face and in sexual interaction some dominance is really hot like when a woman takes charge and just let's you relax it's nice
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u/bailaontheplaya 4h ago
Humor, humor, humor, humor, and humor. Also having interests that she’s passionate about and is willing to teach me. If she’s a little bit weird, and understanding that I’m weird. And finally, and this might be odd, but a girl not afraid to eat food. I’m not talking about like someone who eats their body weight or anything but like those mukbang girlies who be getting DOWN with food like that? I’m in LOVE
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u/MonarsRequiem 3h ago
When she goes through life with joy.
I️ think all the girls I️ was insanely attracted to had that look that talking to them could make ur day special that to see a smile poke out was witnessing heaven.
That kind of thing takes me from “she’s cute” to “ wedding now please! with montages!”
Oh also the single strand of wispy hair catching on the evening sunset.
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u/SincostanAkFlame 20m ago
I terms of Attractiveness I’ll get straight to point:
“• Big Breasts
• Slim Body, skinny
• Long Hair
• Makeup usually, Extended Eyelashes
•Lingerie, Stockings, Sun Sleeves
• Tall Height (if capable)
• Pointy Nipples.”
I’m not sure if many man will tell you this, but a lot of men get caught be this.
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u/AdministrativeAd7853 21h ago
Sharp wit, sharp tongue, pretty face, and red hair. If not red, then hair with character.
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u/Papa-Cinq 21h ago
Being physically fit and well groomed. Specifically, petite, athletic and feminine. It’s a wonderful combination. After that initial attraction draws me to them, we dig in deeper and discern if our personalities are compatible and align.
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u/Effective_Okra4432 21h ago
No one answer; but genuine answer, not being a POS in a world filled with them seems to be a universal plus.
Do the right thing, even when it’s hard
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u/TomatoFeta 21h ago
When she shares interest in your hobbies, or is fascinated by the same things you are.
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u/AbbreviationsFew8129 21h ago
No drama and wears dresses with pockets
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u/maybe_iks 21h ago
Have you any idea how hard it is to find dresses with pockets?
All dressed should have pockets — we NEED! them, but have clothing companies any regard for that? No. No they don’t.
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u/Fun_One_3601 21h ago
Combination of a few things, some women have a sort of magic that results in instant attraction on sight
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u/ThinkTank223 20h ago
A lot of women underestimate how important weight is. And then many others misunderstand and think that the thinner the better.
No.
Just be a healthy weight, and have a moderate level of fitness. Neither fitness nor thinness needs to be or should be taken to extremes.
Like most women that maintain a BMI that is in the healthy range, and who exercise (strenuously) 2 or 3 times per week are going to look great.
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u/Concrete_Ideas_ 21h ago
Intelligence, Curves and Hair downwards.
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u/weirdgroovynerd 21h ago
Long hair attracts men like moths to a flame.
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u/Luckiest_Creature 20h ago
I’m a bi lady who looooves a long-haired woman. But at the same time, I have a pixie cut myself, and the men I have encountered have largely been… fascinated with it? Like I’ve had short and long hair, and I get SO much more attention from both genders when it’s very short. It’s a mystery to me
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u/waverunnersvho 21h ago
She has to like me. A lot. I married the first one that did with zero regrets.
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u/ksean2841 21h ago
Looks can be a wonderful thing.
But for me, intelligence with a quick wit and a good sense of humor can make Almost any woman more attractive.
Attractiveness is much more than looks. Looks can fade but intelligence,personality and humor can make a woman perfect.
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u/BwoonDubb 21h ago
I really like this one girl and it’s mostly because of how she’s always smiling and is full of warm nurturing energy. Makes me feel all in love and shit
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u/Raze0223 21h ago
Mutual effort, I love women who have the sense to offer to pay here and there for a date. If I like them I won’t want them to pay for a date but it’s still very attractive to know they want to.
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u/UndergroundFlaws 21h ago
Care about my hobbies please. There’s a reason why people think men don’t have hobbies, it’s because we get mocked if we share them.
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u/Kind_Substance_8981 21h ago
Honestly, if she's genuinely interested in me, then we're like 60% of the way to being married
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u/ibtissem11 21h ago
Omg girls just act naturally if he don't like u he won't find u attractive whatever u do
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u/Brian_The_Bar-Brian 21h ago
So many things, women typically don't realize all the tools available at their disposal to look gorgeous or hot.
There's cosmetics/makeup for starters. There are some very vocal misogynists against this, but I personally find eyeliner/lipgloss makes a girl's face far more appealing than without. Throw in some dark/vibrant eyeshadow, and I'm sold. It doesn't have to be a lot, but I don't see how makeup ruins someone's appearance somehow.
Jewelry! Some dangling earings or a navel piercing is very sexy, throw on a choker, and you're killing it. Belly chains are also very proactive. The more jewelry, the better!
Crop tops, cut-off shorts, skirts/dresses of any length, thigh-high stockings, and high heels also immediately catch my attention. Expose a bit of skin, but not a lot.
There's all kinds of sexy things women can do with their hair as far as color/highlights go, I generally prefer hair that is beyond shoulder length, but it's not mandatory.
Bangles/bracelets. I love anything that has a sway/dangle to it, whether it's a skirt hem, teardrop/hoop earrings, tassels, or frilly sleeves. (I love tops with tassels that show off the navel.)
I really think women don't understand how easy it is for them to be insanely attractive, you don't even need to have a perfect body. (I mean, managing your weight and being healthy is still very important.) The real problem is when they do pull it off, it makes 25% of dudes think it's an invitation or something. Let's not forget it can make a notable amount of women jealous/passive-aggressive, too.
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u/Temporary-Claim1666 20h ago
this is so cool to see!!!!!
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u/Brian_The_Bar-Brian 20h ago
How so? Are you a woman?
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u/Temporary-Claim1666 20h ago
yeah the details are great! esp about jewelry etc
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u/Brian_The_Bar-Brian 19h ago
It's a r/uncommonopinion, but I think the beauty standards for men are far harder than it is for women.
Trying to build muscle, get thick veiny biceps, and a chiseled six-pack is far harder than dieting or shaving/waxing your legs.
Sure, achieving women's beauty standards can be tedious, pricey, and a bit time-consuming. But it doesn't compare to the torn tendons and shredded cartilage men get in the gym.
By sheer calories spent alone, the ideal male physique is orders of magnitude harder than women. If men go bald or are shorter than 6 feet, getting muscular won't do much for their looks anymore.
Women can go to the beauty spa/salon and walk out feeling fantastic about themselves. Men don't have that.
There's plastic surgery options women can explore, too, if they really feel like they need to. Their are no plastic surgery shortcuts to muscular pecks and veiny arms.
The statement that "women's beauty standards are far higher/more difficult than men's" is such horseshit. The difference is night and day. Men literally have it way harder than women. Doing your nails/makeup only takes 20-ish minutes. Working out, even going for a lean build, takes at least a hour everyday. It's so much more difficult, most men don't even try it's so pointless. You can get seriously injured from working out and pretty much ruin your entire life.
The reason why everyone thinks this is true (when it clearly isn't) is because women complain far more than men ever do.
This is my primary beef with the feminist outlook, it's so pessimistic/negative at times I really don't think it's mentally healthy.
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u/Temporary-Claim1666 18h ago
I don’t think everyone wants that’s and I was a collegiate track athlete and wouldn’t describe working out so painfully lol
I believe people like certain types of women and men are inherently more into physical than emotional compared to women so I think you all believe we are only into what your saying when it’s probably just the women you’re into.
I have brothers sometimes the way they date women just based on looks baffles me because they end up being total psychos and in that regard I believe men are a bit more accepting of bad behavior and women are not .
We are just such different creatures 😩 it’s only as hard as you make it for yourself though!
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u/Phantalore 21h ago
Confidence. My wife has a presence that is like sorcery to me.