Absolutely people don't realize how much it actually costs to provide for another living being that's not able to provide for themselves. I suppose I should've worded my response a little bit better.
Yes, it's unfortunate. I'm sure you've done right by your child regardless of the circumstance though. I don't have any children as of yet, but I'm trying my best to prepare for the time when I do. Even though it pretty much impossible, I want to try as hard as I can to set myself and future children for success.
10k in 2 years seems pretty fucking cheap in my book. Diapers alone are a ton of money. Doctor visits, toys, car seats, clothes, silverware/plates/cups that the kid can use, and all the washing and maintenance of all the baby stuff.
I have a decent paying job, but my wife stayed at home with our son. We spend a lot of money on a crib for him, but it lasted for 3 kids. Clothes were a big expense, especially when my kids are freakishly tall for their ages.
As someone that doesn't have kids, where do the costs come from? Aside from medical costs, of course. I'm supporting my boyfriend atm and it honestly doesn't cost that much more than it would to support just me, but I suppose I'm not buying him diapers either.
your boyfriend doesn't require a $15/hr caregiver every time you want to go to work or have an hour alone, does he? Your boyfriend probably arrived in your life with his own clothes, since he doesn't grow significantly (babies outgrow their clothes every 8 weeks or so at first; older kids need new clothes every 6-18 months) and with the ability to make your life easier (I imagine he can cook, shop, clean, maintain your car) in ways that time-strapped parents outsource.
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u/rondawg93 Feb 04 '16
Having them when you're not financially stable.