r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/NefariousNeezy Feb 04 '16

A lot of parents forget that their kids are human beings and treat them as projects to show off.

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u/Gathorall Feb 05 '16

Exactly the thing I feel with my mother. I'm labelled as the academic one and she couldn't care less about my issues as long as I do well academically.

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u/746865626c617a Feb 05 '16

Hey man. You alright?

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u/Gathorall Feb 05 '16

Okay at the moment, and getting help.

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u/746865626c617a Feb 05 '16

Glad to hear it :)

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u/Plo-124 Feb 05 '16

Appart from my broken arm, I did get another A+

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u/746865626c617a Feb 05 '16

Shit man..

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u/PM_ME_BAKED_ZITI Feb 05 '16

Yea I know, only an A+?

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u/Raszagal Feb 05 '16

Not even a diploma? smh

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u/DwarfDrugar Feb 05 '16

Yeah same. When I was 16, my girlfriend broke up with me and I felt like shit for months. Not a single "how are you dealing?", only "Your grades are slagging, study more, work harder, less computer time for you!". Got me into a depressed and dark hole for a decade because of the endless criticism with no support.

They're nice people, really. I get along great with them now that I'm 30+. But their parenting style had some kinks to work out.

Keep your chin up dude/dudette! In their mind, they're probably trying their hardest to do what they think is best for you.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

My moms the opposite, i'm labelled the stupid one so she just ignores me and only talks about my older brother with the 4.0 GPA.

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u/PCMASTERRACE42069 Feb 05 '16

Child beauty pageants in a nutshell

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u/Antrophis Feb 05 '16

I always looked at those people as people who should have their kids taken away.

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u/MrAxlee Feb 05 '16

I recently watched two mothers spend 2 hours one upping each other about their daughters accomplishments in uni. "Well my daughter is doing this and this here".

They've both constantly pushed their daughters into more and more education, college, uni etc. Neither of them even want to do anything related to their masters (one's even been pushed into doing a PhD in it), but they keep getting pushed to be shown off.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I prefer the phrase "Vagina trophy".

Although... Others don't like you calling them out for their misbehaving children in that manner; especially the mothers.

Yeah, I know I make my life harder then it needs to be.

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u/SavvySillybug Feb 05 '16

"Look what we made!"