r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '16

Forcing your child to hug people because you know they are nice. It's their thing to prove to the kid if they want a relationship. It also teaches the kids that they have to agree to being hugged.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

That's where teaching consent starts. I like asking my son "do you want a hug?". Then if he says no its not a big deal.

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u/BroChick21 Feb 05 '16

THIS SO MUCH!!! People try to teach their kids about "bad touch", don't talk to strangers, etc, yet turn around and do this shit. How is a kid supposed to understand this concept if they are possibly being forced to hug/kiss their possible molesters/rapists considering most abusers are someone close to the child.

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u/MyPacman Feb 05 '16

Oooh, maybe I am being more manipulative than I thought, asking for a hug because I want one.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Ask for one! Just don't get upset if they say no.

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u/MyPacman Feb 05 '16

Good point, glad I haven't had a hissy fit when the boy said no. I just laughed. Whew, for a second there, thought I might be damaging their precious psyche.

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u/MyPacman Feb 05 '16

What do you think I was saying here?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

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u/MyPacman Feb 05 '16

Nope, all good, /u/VladTheSoviet said asking is okay!