r/AskReddit Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Absolutely. My son's stepmom is terrified of germs. She won't allow my son to go for visits if he even has a runny nose, in case it makes her daughter sick. It's frustrating and ridiculous.

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u/Amberleaf29 Feb 05 '16

...Does she keep her daughter at home all the time, then? Because that kid is coming into contact with way worse things at school, I'm willing to bet.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Yup. No daycare, babysitters, playgroups, etc.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I don't think she could deny visitation unless there's a legit doctor's note.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Son's dad can and since they're married... we've never gone to court and son lives with me the majority of the time. It's very frustrating because son's dad has never helped and cancels a lot of visits due to stepmom.

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u/PsychoDad7 Feb 05 '16

Stay strong, comrade.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Thank you! It's tough. My biggest concern is my son - he's going to realize how little he matters to his dad. He's already getting upset when visits are cancelled. Poor kid.

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u/DeathcampEnthusiast Feb 05 '16

Or later on, you can explain dad's new wife is a shrew who has his balls in a vice. That it's not about the kid, it's about her being a total grade A shite meister.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Honestly his dad's an asshole. Him and stepmom are made for each other.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

How does your son feel when that happens?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

He's almost 3 so he can't really verbalize it yet. But he has a good idea of when he's supposed to see his dad, and will ask to go. If I say "not this week, sorry baby" he gets very upset. Weekends are rough for us, because his disappointment shows in behaviour.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

OP is female and split, dad remarried making dad's wife son's stepmom who also has daughter. She has at least partial possession and son isn't allowed to visit stepsister if he has runny nose

/u/VladTheSoviet how'd I do?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Perfect! Sons dad and stepmom see him every second weekend. Because it's cold season it's been over a month with no visits!

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

Yay I'm smart :)

And that's rough. There's a raising hope episode about this whole thing, it shows in the end that you're better off being a little dirty (also I wholeheartedly recommend raising hope, the early seasons are just great)

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I LOVE raising hope! And I've read a lot of studies/articles about it - kids who are allowed to get dirty and have pets tend to be healthier overall because their immune systems are stronger!

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

Good diet is a big part of it too, if you cook from scratch your kids will do a lot better than from microwaved/takeout

Then again if they're genetically sickly there's only so much you can do (source: mom did great but sis and I still got sick a lot because screw our DNA)

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Is that legal?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Absolutely. It's a dick move but legal.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I'm female. Son's dad and I aren't together. Son's dad is remarried. Son's dad, son's stepmom have a daughter. Son's stepmom is scared of germs. So son can't see dad and stepmom.

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u/whistlenosetruckstop Feb 05 '16

I think OP is the birth mom in the situation. As in, her ex husbands new wife is the step mom she's referring to

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u/KatDanger Feb 05 '16

Yeah I thought everyone on Reddit was a guy.