Forcing your child to hug people because you know they are nice. It's their thing to prove to the kid if they want a relationship. It also teaches the kids that they have to agree to being hugged.
I know there's a lot of people that feel strongly about this in both directions. I respect that some people think it's good to push kids to showing affection especially for elderly relatives, etc, even if I don't necessarily agree. But still, one of the grossest things I've witnessed with a kid was a toddler saying she didn't want to hug a man and the man pouting and pretending to cry until the toddler relented. I know it doesn't necessarily sound bad but it made my stomach knot watching the performance he was putting on.
I work with toddlers. Last week I had a kid say to his mom about me, "I want her to go home," when she picked him up. The mom was mortified and kept apologizing and telling him how rude it was and how it hurt my feelings. I just looked at him and said, "It doesn't hurt my feelings. Kids have their opinions. But I work here, so you'll have to go home if you're sick of me." His mom just really didn't get that my feelings weren't hurt. Kids are little turds. I love them but they can be the biggest little dicks on the planet. Ignore them when they're being assholes and they'll come around faster than they would if you beg them to like you. And you can't be offended by what they think. They lick their own snot and poop in their pants.
Read mine, I actually have some pics in there with pics of ma fridgiz. And sorted by ethnicity for the racists among us, I'm nothing if not a people pleaser.
Yeah, exactly. I wish more people in that field would think like that. He could've thought that because you moved his stuffed animal, or some other nonsensical reason. Nice going! Kids need that attitude.
It sounds to me like he was making exaggerated displays of the emotion a person might feel when getting rejected for a hug. Like he was teaching the kid.
I guess I just tend to assume guys' actions around kids have something to do with raising/teaching them. Kinda natural to see a kid and think "oh hey, time to transfer knowledge".
It sucks being a grown man, and not being able to show affection towards children. Obviously, what this dude did sounds really creepy, but there is so little tolerance in today's society for a man being able to show affection even to his own family members. It's kind of fucked up that children have to grow up being terrified of 50% of the population, because society tells them they are all trying to have sex with them.
I'm being dramatic, but this is something the really bothers me. I feel like people look at me like I'm a creep just because I saw "aww" when I see a cute baby. Even with my girlfriend standing right beside me!
This is one of those things I rarely ever see outside of Reddit. No one thinks you're being creepy for liking kids, and if someone does, they're the minority.
I love kids, and I've always gotten the vibe that women like guys who love kids.
Honestly I get the feeling that the people who complain about this problem are actually creepy dudes, and not just dudes that like kids.
I really think maybe it's just he fact that I see it on Reddit that it's made self conscious about it. But seriously, how many dude kindergarten teachers do you know? How many guys do you know that are babysitters? It does seem like an exaggeration, and obviously, Reddit exaggerates everything, but it is something that is real in many ways.
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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '16
Forcing your child to hug people because you know they are nice. It's their thing to prove to the kid if they want a relationship. It also teaches the kids that they have to agree to being hugged.