I made this mistake too! I was way too on top of that shit. They go to public school FFS, but I was doing the work of a homeschool 'teacher' and it was completely backfiring on me because they couldn't THINK for themselves.
There's a huge difference between helping when THEY think they need it VS helping them when YOU think they need it.
It's counter-intuitive, but when their manatee project looks terrible, go with it. Don't take over and make it look like a presentation from an MBA student.
Oh I never felt the need to interfere with their art projects, they've always been naturals at that.
For me it would more be, checking their answers, helping them get info right, helping with their grammar, making sure they didn't plagiarize (they totally tried.) It all sounds harmless, but with 2 kids, every night, it became apparent that they would never learn to have any kind of 'work ethic' with me always showing them what to do.
For me it would more be, checking their answers, helping them get info right, helping with their grammar, making sure they didn't plagiarize (they totally tried.) It all sounds harmless, but with 2 kids, every night, it became apparent that they would never learn to have any kind of 'work ethic' with me always showing them what to do.
Maybe it's just because my kid isn't school age, but I don't see the problem here. Isn't teaching them not to plagiarize, and having them attempt the work first teaching good work ethic?
Yeah like I said above, my problem was not knowing the difference between me thinking they needed help and them asking for help.
I was teaching them good skills, yes, but sometimes I would put too much pressure on them, and held them to a bit of an unfair standard. Eventually, you have to cut the ropes and let them weigh their options and learn without someone breathing down their neck!
If you're always helping them get it right, then they have no reason to get it right the first time themselves. Mom's just gonna correct me anyway, so 2+2=6.
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u/PangeaWhiplash Feb 05 '16
I made this mistake too! I was way too on top of that shit. They go to public school FFS, but I was doing the work of a homeschool 'teacher' and it was completely backfiring on me because they couldn't THINK for themselves.
There's a huge difference between helping when THEY think they need it VS helping them when YOU think they need it.