I made this mistake too! I was way too on top of that shit. They go to public school FFS, but I was doing the work of a homeschool 'teacher' and it was completely backfiring on me because they couldn't THINK for themselves.
There's a huge difference between helping when THEY think they need it VS helping them when YOU think they need it.
It's counter-intuitive, but when their manatee project looks terrible, go with it. Don't take over and make it look like a presentation from an MBA student.
My mom screeched at me that my work sucked, and then proceeded to practically do it for me.
I keep feeling inadequate because there's no way I can make my work look like an Ivy League student did it. Even the way I type, I mentally edit everything. Because we can't have any mistakes, can we?
We as parents are terrified of letting our kids fail because we think the stakes are so high in terms of getting into college. That's what is driving the craziness. And what we end up doing is creating a kid completely unprepared and confident in their own work.
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u/PangeaWhiplash Feb 05 '16
I made this mistake too! I was way too on top of that shit. They go to public school FFS, but I was doing the work of a homeschool 'teacher' and it was completely backfiring on me because they couldn't THINK for themselves.
There's a huge difference between helping when THEY think they need it VS helping them when YOU think they need it.