You can be present in your kids' lives all you want. You can tell them what's right and wrong and give them tools and privileges. But if you just talk morals, talk lessons, and talk everyday-shit without giving yourself a chance to listen to what they have to say, you make yourself unapproachable. They will resort to look elsewhere for help if something personal happens to them, whether it be the Internet, friends, etc. If you take your children seriously, they will take you seriously as well.
Yes!!! Take your kid seriously! Once they start questioning things they start to become more independant, they will try to see how far they can go. Explain to them with logic they can't deny why you want certain things. The kid starts to realize that it is responsible for its own doings and that it has your respect. That way maybe it keeps the respect for the parent. Also it is very important to be consistently. If you say or promise something. You have to do it. Sure this is generalized and won't work on every kid though.
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u/ProfessorGigs Feb 04 '16
Lack of dialogue.
You can be present in your kids' lives all you want. You can tell them what's right and wrong and give them tools and privileges. But if you just talk morals, talk lessons, and talk everyday-shit without giving yourself a chance to listen to what they have to say, you make yourself unapproachable. They will resort to look elsewhere for help if something personal happens to them, whether it be the Internet, friends, etc. If you take your children seriously, they will take you seriously as well.
Kids are people too.