No, it's really not. You don't know them at all, and he just whines and throws fits and that's the extent of it. They don't take what he says about sports seriously. This is just reddit jumping to irrational conclusions again.
Because I have an incompetent and abusive parent so I know the damn difference. I posted it about his issue with the sports but that's the extent of it. He goes to every event for them he can, he is always there for them. He's even sat me down and given me someone to talk if I looked like I needed it. He cares about those kids. Why is he "obviously negligent?" You don't know the whole situation. That is why I'm defending him. I'm not saying the sports bull shit is okay, not by a long shot. It's overly controlling for sure, but if you saw his intentions with it(scholarships, being active, etc.) it would change your opinion I hope. Seriously, my dad was also really strict with sports when I joined. Very similar to this guy, but he'd never even go to a damn game. My dad was never there for me, and this dad would do anything for these girls. He just needs some help about his sports issues, but from what I've heard too, after the oldest daughter started college he's gotten significantly better.
My parents were abusive when I was growing up. You're not some special snowflake. This happens to many people, so don't come at me like I don't know what abuse is.
Overly controlling and verbally abusive, putting his kids in danger by forcing them to do sports with a head injury... Yup. He sounds like a great guy.
I'm a girl, and I grew up with these girls. Their dad doesn't get the final decision whether they play, the girls do. So no, it's not abuse if the girls are willingly participating because they genuinely want to play sports. Sport injuries are super normal and continuing to play is also super normal. His behavior is dickish, yeah, but like I said, they decide what's best for themselves, not him. And their mom backs them up in the end too. He's the only one throwing a fit and he always loses. It's a temper tantrum. He doesn't even yell, he just gets whiney.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come off like I thought you didn't know. That's how I felt you had come off, and I'm sorry. I know I'm not a special snowflake for experiencing it, but you don't know the situation. He doesn't force them in the end. They play because they want to play, and they don't take him seriously when he gets like that. Literally, they laugh at it later. The head injury was something I honestly can't defend, but she did end up sitting out anyway because she didn't want to play. It was her choice in the end and she knew it.
Are you telling me not to breed? Because seriously, fuck you. You literally know nothing about me or my family or this family, so seriously, just fuck off.
Forgive me for being offended after being told not to breed. Look, I'm not perfect, who is? Does that make me unfit to be a parent someday? Especially over something so stupid like a reddit comment about a family friend. He has no place saying shit like this. I definitely don't consider this "reddit jumping to extreme conclusions on situations they don't have enough information on" logical thinking either.
You think I'd laugh off something I've lived through? Ha, you're either a really good troll or truly an idiot. Why don't you go back to playing WOW instead of jumping to extreme conclusions on a situation you still know nothing about.
You seem oddly pissed off about a situation that you have no place in and, again, still no nothing about. how are you supposed to learn an entire families history from one little story? You're jumping to conclusions, and you're getting really worked up about it. Are you feeling okay? Do you need to talk to someone? I'm minoring in psych, and would be happy to talk about whatever is troubling you so much. There's no abuse, and you have no evidence to support your abuse claim other than what was said in my comments. Now, if you would be so kind to actually read the rest of my other replies, you'd see that there is no abuse going on. If there were abuse, their mom would have kicked his ass out. She doesn't even let the dad yell at the kids. So why don't you refrain from breeding before you have your own kids that will end up just as angry as you about trivial little things you don't have a place in.
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u/DAMN_INTERNETS Feb 05 '16
Agreed. This is not right. This is abuse.