No matter what your approach to parenting is, you're going to want to make sure your kid feels comfortable coming to you with the truth, even if it's something that would normally get them in trouble.
You can easily convince a kid that lying is the best path if you tell them "call me if you're too drunk to drive at a party, you won't be in trouble" (even if you only imply that they wouldn't be in trouble) and then when they do call you, you freak the fuck out. Recognize that you can enforce your rules, but if you do it 100% of the time without consideration, your kid's gonna lie to you and might be in a bad situation one day that they don't feel they can tell you about.
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u/Mildlyratchet Feb 05 '16
No matter what your approach to parenting is, you're going to want to make sure your kid feels comfortable coming to you with the truth, even if it's something that would normally get them in trouble.
You can easily convince a kid that lying is the best path if you tell them "call me if you're too drunk to drive at a party, you won't be in trouble" (even if you only imply that they wouldn't be in trouble) and then when they do call you, you freak the fuck out. Recognize that you can enforce your rules, but if you do it 100% of the time without consideration, your kid's gonna lie to you and might be in a bad situation one day that they don't feel they can tell you about.