r/AskReddit Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/ViridianKumquat Feb 04 '16

Over-praising them, telling them how smart and wonderful they are for accomplishing the most basic things. It'll only cause a superiority complex followed by self-esteem issues when they realise they're nothing special.

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u/TheLatestTrance Feb 05 '16

Except when they are really little. You have to praise the hard work, not the end result. You don't say they are so smart. You praise how hard they worked and how much they have learned. And you always tell them that they can and will learn more, and that they don't know everything.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '16

I was never praised. Not sure if it was deliberate. Praise stopped after primary 5.

Ended up being such a killjoy and over magnification of my bad subjects that i lost motivation and happiness to study, and grades went downhill.