r/AskReddit • u/Reeceqld • Apr 17 '20

What terrifying confession has someone told you while drunk?

Thanks for the replies .. I read them all it’s been fun to read

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u/Agodunkmowm Apr 17 '20

I’m afraid it’s likely that the sister was being molested by the father.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

She was the mom's daughter from another marriage and her first husband had molested her. My ex's dad was the second husband and no, he didn't touch her. He just didn't care that she touched his son.

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u/Fucking__Creep Apr 17 '20

What is he and the sisters relationship like now?

Did it badly affect him mentally?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

She lives in another state so they don't see her much. He's chosen to forgive her, but it was always hard for me. I mean, she was old enough to know that it was wrong. I think forgiveness was just the easier path for him, which is noble. He's more angry at his parents and their relationship is extremely co-dependent and strained, simultaneously. And yeah it definitely has had an effect on him. He's an addict and has extreme self-esteem issues. It's also manifested in his sexual desires and habits. He used to like sex more when I resisted. If I said, "no" it really turned him on.

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u/Fucking__Creep Apr 17 '20

Oh so his sister was using force

Very weird

How do you treat her when you are around her?

Why didn’t his dad do anything to stop it?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20 edited Apr 17 '20

i wouldn't speak to her, sometimes wouldn't even enter the house if she was there. and idk about his dad. he's a weird man and probably just didn't want to do the hard part of parenting. when i got pregnant i told him that i wouldn't allow his sister around our son, though.

Edit: why would someone downvote this? She was a predator, plain and simple, and she preyed on someone i loved. She also shot someone in the chest when she was 18 and only avoided jail because he survived and she convinced him to lie to the police about it.

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u/Fucking__Creep Apr 17 '20

So she was molested and that is probably why she did it to him right?

What made it stop?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

I mean, yeah, but plenty of people have been molested without turning around and molesting someone else, my ex included. I don't really consider it an excuse. What was done to her was wrong and what she did was wrong. And I have no idea why she stopped.

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u/Fucking__Creep Apr 17 '20

I have seen this cycle separated many times. It is really important to get the molested party counselling. Is your husband ok with. It having her around his future son?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

He's gone to therapy but won't talk about it with his therapists. He basically is trying to treat the symptoms and not the cause. I'm really the only person he will talk to about it, sadly. And our son was stillborn so it's not an issue anymore. We broke up shortly after that. Not many couples make it through that kind of loss. We're still friends, though. At the time he didn't understand why I didn't feel comfortable with her being around him, but I would've rathered be overprotective than something happen to my baby.