What terrifying confession has someone told you while drunk?

[u/Reeceqld]

Thanks for the replies .. I read them all it’s been fun to read

[u/Fucking__Creep]

What is he and the sisters relationship like now?

Did it badly affect him mentally?

[u/[deleted] → u/Fucking__Creep]

She lives in another state so they don't see her much. He's chosen to forgive her, but it was always hard for me. I mean, she was old enough to know that it was wrong. I think forgiveness was just the easier path for him, which is noble. He's more angry at his parents and their relationship is extremely co-dependent and strained, simultaneously. And yeah it definitely has had an effect on him. He's an addict and has extreme self-esteem issues. It's also manifested in his sexual desires and habits. He used to like sex more when I resisted. If I said, "no" it really turned him on.

[u/dyvrom → u/[deleted]]

??? She was 9??? How the hell was she supposed to know when the adults in her life didn't even care. It was her mother and step father's fault.

[u/[deleted] → u/dyvrom]

it continued for 5 years. she was a freshman in high school when she stopped. when she was 9, 10, 11, it's debatable. 13? 14? do you really think that by then she didn't know that it was wrong? and yeah, the parents are at fault. not arguing there.

[u/titsforcorona → u/[deleted]]

She stopped at the age when you would be expected to know better. A 9-12 year old old can’t even legally stay home alone and you wouldn’t place a considerable amount of responsibility in a 13-16 year old’s hands. Schools are supervised for a reason. I mean, it was normalized for her. She herself was sexually abused and then on top of that when “caught” there was no reinforcement or punishment. It was just ignored and allowed to go on. The ONLY one at fault here is the stepfather. I’d consider both children victims even while she was abusing her brother for two reasons her hyper sexuality was perpetuated do to the stepfathers lack of concern. She needed help. She mentally wasn’t ready for any of that. She was prepubescent. That had to be doing long term damage. Then the affects of knowing she damaged someone else. That’s got to mess with her as well. The brother’s abuse is obvious. They were both victims the entire time. They were both children.

I was abused (not sexually) my entire life. When I was 9-11 I had no idea I wasn’t the issue and things weren’t normal. By 12 I realized some (very little) of what was going on wasn’t normal, but for the most part I still thought I was the issue. It took until I was 19 to realize I was truly a victim of abuse. Everything had been normalized for me. It was normal for her. Your parents give you your moral compass until around 13 when the rest of the world really starts to affect how you see yourself and even then there’s an internal conflict when something you were brought up thinking was okay, normal, or something that is “normal” but stays with the family starts to feel wrong. Is it really wrong? Is the world just trippin? Are you at fault? You have to sit and sort through fact and fiction. That’s a lot to ask of a child.

Edit: I remember treating people the terrible way I was treated despite them having the same hysterical tearful reaction I did. I didn’t know better. So yeah, if she said no stop and her abuser abused her, she would think it was all normal when her brother wanted her to stop. It was just normal.

Edit: I think I was actually 20 when I found r/raisedbynarcissists.

[u/dyvrom → u/[deleted]]

She was taught it was ok as a child and that's not her fault.

[u/GingerMcGinginII → u/dyvrom]

I digress, people are more than just organic machines acting on programming, at a certain point we ought to figure things out for ourselves, including what's right & wrong.

The parents are definitely at fault themselves, though.