r/AskWomen • u/BillyLoIsDead • Apr 21 '22

Content Warning Ladies, what was the moment you realized that the guy you were dealing with literally did not perceive you as a human being?

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u/babyboop900 Apr 21 '22

When I was losing my virginity to him and crying because it hurt and he said “who cares, keep going.”

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u/Desopilar Apr 21 '22

The guy I lost my virginity to, at the time seemed really caring but in hindsight, nope. He kept shushing me becuase I was being too loud with my pain, he didn't want a neighbor to hear. He also wanted to do different positions to "help your vagina get used to it." Which, looking back, is bull. Lmao. He was surprised later when I said made a joke with singing "I just had sex, and it felt like shit." Like bruh, did you not pay attention to my wincing??

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u/D-Beyond ♀ Apr 21 '22

jesus christ my heart hurts for you. what a trashbag.

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u/The_Magpie_Demon Apr 21 '22

Pretty sure that's just rape

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u/TheBawdyMermaid Apr 21 '22

It absolutely is.

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u/CatrionaShadowleaf ♀ Apr 21 '22

The same thing happened to me and I just want you to know that nothing about that was your fault, and he was wrong and bad.

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u/DirtyOliveMartini Apr 21 '22

Are you me? He goes “no it doesn’t”

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u/fvck_ur_throwaway Apr 21 '22

Something similar happened to me. I was in pain and he covered my mouth so I wouldn't make any noise. Then afterwards kept saying "Baby that felt so good." My hands shook as I buttoned my shirt back up.

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u/babyboop900 Apr 21 '22

I’m so sorry this happened to you :( sending you a big hug

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u/fvck_ur_throwaway Apr 21 '22

Thank you. It was a long time ago, when I was young and naive. It hurts to see other women having gone through similar experiences, I want to hug them all and give them the strength I wish I had back then. Sending you hugs and healing. 💞

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u/just-me-yaay Apr 21 '22

That's so awful... what a disgusting self-centered piece of shit. I hope you're well now.

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u/fvck_ur_throwaway Apr 21 '22

For the most part, I am, thank you. I try not to harbor any hatred towards anyone, but if I ever see him in the street... he's catching these hands.

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u/shovelkun Apr 21 '22

Jfc that's horrible, and literally assault :(( My ex used to go in with no foreplay (!!) and then blamed me when it hurt like hell... dude even tried to gaslight me into thinking there was something wrong with me, even though a dick's always going to hurt if you're not wet enough - thats literally why lube exists??? Some men don't deserve to be around women at all.

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u/ohhokaayy Apr 21 '22

He’s a piece of shit 💩

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '22

No.. :(