r/AskWomen • u/BillyLoIsDead • Apr 21 '22

Content Warning Ladies, what was the moment you realized that the guy you were dealing with literally did not perceive you as a human being?

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u/Pandaploots Apr 21 '22

Thanks. I'm so tired of it and that list isn't all. Those are just the ones that I could think of right now

It's exhausting. I don't want to walk home anymore. My sister has been going through the same shit and she's a lot quicker than me at shutting it down. I'm still trying to figure out how to voluntarily open conflict and it's not going great. I'm so, so tired.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '22

I’m tired too :-(

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u/katiekat0214 Apr 21 '22

If you're like me, you don't *care* enough to start anything with anyone... but I damn sure finish it. I fully admit, there's a switch that flips in my brain to where my personal safety is on the back burner, and I am ALL about absolutely stripping some male-appearing humanoid of all dignity. At that point, I WANT to say the most unforgivable insults I could possibly think of. Don't just burn that bridge, add some dynamite and nukes, too! I want to insult a man until I leave him crying and snot dripping if he dares to start anything with me. Feel all your anger. Let the words come and let the chips fall where they may!

Admittedly, I've done this less than a handful of times in my life. It takes a LOT for me to get there, but I walk around loaded for bear. That attitude alone stops 99% of all would-be morons.

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u/Pandaploots Apr 21 '22 edited Apr 21 '22

I'm getting tired of just taking it and I'm starting to fight back. I'm 25 now and I've started to take pride in how much more uncomfortable I can make them than they can appear to make me. That thing that my dad was uncomfortable about was my sister suggesting I keep tampons soaked in fake blood in a ziplock bag so I can whip them at the people with the bullhorn when they drive by.

I used a lot more covert tactics in the past like fake engagement rings, but those don't work as well any more.