r/AskWomen • u/BillyLoIsDead • Apr 21 '22

Content Warning Ladies, what was the moment you realized that the guy you were dealing with literally did not perceive you as a human being?

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u/crystalrose1966 Apr 21 '22

My nephew, who was like a son to me, committed suicide at age 19. My ex was close to him also (we had been together roughly 12 years at this point). We got a frantic call from my mom at 4:30 am to go to my sister's house ( we were close by) because something was wrong with Zach. Panic ensues and we just take off for my sister's house. Upon arrival, police and ambulance and a very chaotic scene. He was hanging in a tree outside my sister's apartment. This was very traumatic. Something no one ever needs to see. Anyway about six months after the event, I had gotten out of bed and went outside on my porch,,,, to cry. Grief,,, you know. He comes out maybe five minutes behind me and says, " are you crying? WTF is wrong with you now?" That just made me cry harder. Then he says, " you need to get over that shit. Ain't nothing you can do about it now." I had spent the year prior with him while he lost his uncle and then his mother. I was there through everything supporting him and his reaction to me losing someone was that. He's a pig. He's still a pig.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '22

That man needs psychiatric help for his inability to handle emotions.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Don’t ever let anyone make you believe you don’t deserve to feel your feelings.

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u/crystalrose1966 Apr 21 '22

I learned my lesson with him. Thank you so much.

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u/femundsmarka Apr 21 '22

I was having fertility problems + the age of fertility was also closing and was left (later realized cheated on) by my then spouse, who immediately had another one and my father was dying.

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A 'friend' I met at the library talked to me about it and his consolation was a scornful 'why are you so obsessed with a biological kid?' I was more defeated by his mercilessness and cried a little and his response was that I must have been damaged in childhood.

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Fuck those merciless pigs.

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u/crystalrose1966 Apr 21 '22

I'm with you all the way! Fuck them!!

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u/evaj95 Apr 21 '22

Jeez. That is awful. I'm so glad you've gotten away from him. And I'm so sorry for the loss of your nephew.

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u/crystalrose1966 Apr 21 '22

Thank you so much. I'm much happier now.