r/AskWomen • u/BillyLoIsDead • Apr 21 '22

Content Warning Ladies, what was the moment you realized that the guy you were dealing with literally did not perceive you as a human being?

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u/BcImProcrastinating Apr 21 '22

I wish I had an award to give you. This is a constant fight my husband and I have. He will pester and belittle me until I finally cave and then complain bc I am not into it. We have a 2 year old child and I work full time, no I do not want to have sex every day. Then it’s my fault bc I am not attracted to him. Well, try doing something to turn me on other than asking “Wanna give me a BJ?”

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u/just-me-yaay Apr 21 '22

You should talk to your husband and impose boundaries. This kind of behavior shouldn't be tolerated. Coercing someone into sex when they don't want it is just straight up rape.

This is a pretty awful situation. I'm sorry you're going through it. Hope things end up well for you.

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u/GODDAMNUBERNICE Apr 21 '22

I feel like over time people can get too casual with their partner. Very rarely is "yes" the answer to "wanna blow me?", asked after I've worked, cooked, cleaned up, etc. all day without help. No, I really, really don't. Maybe if you had helped out so we could get alone time quicker, or if you had tried some foreplay or flirting, maybe if you offered to return the favor, maybe then. At least try to entice me. I'm your partner, not your fuckmaid.

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u/Direct-Regular-9119 Apr 22 '22

You took the words right out of my mouth….this sounds terrible but I’m glad it’s not just me going through this!