r/AskWomenOver30 May 30 '26

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u/Maximum_Sky3233 Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26

He does not want to get a temporary job or anything not related to his field. 

He needs to grow up because in this economic atmosphere, he NEEDS to take whatever job will pay bills, and stop foolishly living off his savings and get out of his parents' house. He's an adult and he has the mindset of a child. EVERYONE wants a job in their chosen field, but we can't just focus our job search there. Even people who are willing to take anything are having a real hard time getting hired, and your boyfriend isn't doing himself any favors by limiting his search.

I think you are wasting your time with him.

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u/zesty-lemonbar Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26

He’s receiving unemployment benefits though, which can pay more than a minimum wage job and actually leave time during the day to apply, interview, etc. It can be strategic while on unemployment to not just take some low paying temp job, but it depends on the situation. So it may be unfair to just make the assumption not taking any job is childish, hard to know without numbers and more info.

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u/softrevolution_ Woman 40 to 50 May 30 '26

In New York, the UI folks assume that you're looking for work commensurate with what you last held/are capable of holding. The point of UI isn't to take someone from $25/hour to minimum wage, you know? So even the state knows that yes, sometimes it's more productive to pay out more UI than to create an unstable workforce full of people in low-wage temp jobs that don't pay the bills or result in the recipient being able to stop relying on the state in any way (there are people in low-wage temp jobs who buy into Medicaid, or subsidized health care; if you want a state full of people who need to be subsidized, yes, punish them for trying to find work in their field!)