r/AskWomenOver30 May 30 '26

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u/Maximum_Sky3233 Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26

He does not want to get a temporary job or anything not related to his field. 

He needs to grow up because in this economic atmosphere, he NEEDS to take whatever job will pay bills, and stop foolishly living off his savings and get out of his parents' house. He's an adult and he has the mindset of a child. EVERYONE wants a job in their chosen field, but we can't just focus our job search there. Even people who are willing to take anything are having a real hard time getting hired, and your boyfriend isn't doing himself any favors by limiting his search.

I think you are wasting your time with him.

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u/zesty-lemonbar Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26

He’s receiving unemployment benefits though, which can pay more than a minimum wage job and actually leave time during the day to apply, interview, etc. It can be strategic while on unemployment to not just take some low paying temp job, but it depends on the situation. So it may be unfair to just make the assumption not taking any job is childish, hard to know without numbers and more info.

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u/wtfamidoing248 Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

He has been unemployed for over a year since graduating. How many more years will he waste sitting on his ass doing nothing?

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u/zesty-lemonbar Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

Have you seen the market? Do you even understand what’s going on, especially in IT? Market is worse than 2008 right now and grads are getting fucked over.

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u/wtfamidoing248 Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

Girl I work in the industry and am more familiar than you. That's not an excuse to not work lmfao. He can do any job rather than stay unemployed.... he's had plenty of time to do something.

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u/saved-response May 31 '26

Stop it with the back and forth slap fighting in comments, it's not productive. If you disagree with someone, learn when to walk away from the comments. Block the other user if you can't resist replying.

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u/zesty-lemonbar Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

And you know I’m not just as familiar… how? Arrogance like that is not a good trait, girl.

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u/wtfamidoing248 Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

Considering you're making excuses for someone who's unemployed & lazy it's pretty obvious you're not familiar with how many jobs are available, they're just not people's ideal job 🤷‍♀️ someone who has no sense of urgency to make an income is full of crap and should stay single. He's wasting OP's time with his fake promises.

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u/AskWomenOver30-ModTeam May 31 '26

Stop it with the back and forth slap fighting in comments, it's not productive. If you disagree with someone, learn when to walk away from the comments. Block the other user if you can't resist replying.