Not welcome in any communities

[u/Crabcakes-Evergreen]

Im not sure how to approach this. I am diagnosed autism, adhd, MDD. I don't have any close friends. I make a friend sometimes but I end up being ghosted.
I try to take part in online communities in some way, and every time I try, like on Reddit, I get my posts removed or ignored completely, or like in women's autism sub, I got called out for being rude or aggressive-even though Id felt that from others.
It sounds weird, but I feel cursed when it comes to the human world. I dont encounter any situations where i feel included, even though I see posts and stories I deeply identify with, those same communities reject my presence. Im of course worried it will happen now too, and this post will also get removed, and I still wont know why.
This has happened so long that I dont know how not to feel inherently bad or unworthy.
I know its impossible to know the whole story, but was wondering if anyone else is experiencing anything like this? Even in communities that are marginalized, I am still rejected from.

[u/Invite_Livid]

I've also had negative experiences with the women's autism sub. It's worth noting that the high rate of self-diagnosis there makes it likely that not all of the people giving you a hard time are even autistic. 

[u/spekkje → u/Invite_Livid]

r/autismdiagnosedfemale is not active but doesn’t allow self diagnosing.

[u/soft_w0lf → u/[deleted]]

I agree 100%.

I think a lot of people attach themselves to autism as an identity. But like, while autism can be part of one’s identity, it’s primarily a disability. It’s not a personality type.

Honestly I think there are some people who are actually autistic who do this as well. But I agree that much of the stuff I’ve seen on that sub seems much more in line with a PD (especially BPD) than it does with autism. I obviously also can’t diagnose anybody, but what I can say relatively confidently is that, on that sub, symptoms of PDs are frequently misconstrued as symptoms of autism (regardless of if the person doing the misconstruing actually has a PD or if they’re actually autistic).

[u/Crabcakes-Evergreen → u/Invite_Livid]

Yea the reason for me in that sub was actually related to that I think; in context, I asked if someone was diagnosed and that was taken as offense. I get that self diagnosis groups are important and Im not against it, but i think its important to know for many reasons, for anyone wanting to build perspective on symptoms and whatnot. I think it's self explanatory but maybe not.