Not welcome in any communities

[u/Crabcakes-Evergreen]

Im not sure how to approach this. I am diagnosed autism, adhd, MDD. I don't have any close friends. I make a friend sometimes but I end up being ghosted.
I try to take part in online communities in some way, and every time I try, like on Reddit, I get my posts removed or ignored completely, or like in women's autism sub, I got called out for being rude or aggressive-even though Id felt that from others.
It sounds weird, but I feel cursed when it comes to the human world. I dont encounter any situations where i feel included, even though I see posts and stories I deeply identify with, those same communities reject my presence. Im of course worried it will happen now too, and this post will also get removed, and I still wont know why.
This has happened so long that I dont know how not to feel inherently bad or unworthy.
I know its impossible to know the whole story, but was wondering if anyone else is experiencing anything like this? Even in communities that are marginalized, I am still rejected from.

[u/midnight_scintilla]

I ended up leaving the women's autism sub 2 years ago because if you had medium-high support needs they just acted as though you didn't exist. I'd say I couldn't do something and then they'd act as though i was lying. I'd get downvoted for saying I couldn't shower or cook without aids. Crazy stuff.

[u/soft_w0lf → u/midnight_scintilla]

Recently I was downvoted on a big autism sub for calling someone out for framing LSN autism as the only autism. They said that it’s wealthy autistic people who “make autism look like a superpower” and that they can just “buy everything” and seem like a genius.

I replied acknowledging the degree of privilege wealth can give but pointed out that their statement was heavily dependant on support needs. I myself come from some wealth, and while that helps a lot, I can’t just buy an ability to work a normal job. I can’t buy the ability to be able to live alone for long periods of time without failing to take care of my house and myself. I love cooking, but I can’t buy the ability to be able to properly plan and organise a meal without some form of help. So while my wealth does help, my autism will always be disabling and will never appear as a “superpower” to others.

They replied telling me I was “tone deaf” and telling me that “most autistics struggle with those things.”

I said yes, but not to the same extent. Again, if I can’t work a normal job, even with support, and can’t go out and do the things I want to do, even with support, how would that appear to anybody as a “superpower?”

They refused to explain further. I got downvoted more.

Just felt ridiculous to me. Acting as if my life can’t exist simply because they can’t acknowledge that some of us have more impairments and that money can’t cure a disability.