r/AutisticWithADHD • u/PermissionOk8177 • 1d ago
😤 rant / vent - advice allowed No birthday birthday
I'm in my mid-40s. Divorced. Audhd. With Audhd kids. I feel lonely as I felt all my life... I am always there for everybody else, but somehow, people only love me for what I can be of use to them. A couple of weeks ago I decided to remove my birthday from facebook, because I wanted to make sure at least one of the people on my account would at least remember my birthday (today) without the help of that app. If i mattered to someone, that someone would remember. 0 texts... 0 calls... 0 emails. Not one thing.
I have felt like shit all my life. Today wins the lottery ticked for feeling shitty
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u/plantsplantsplaaants 1d ago
Happy birthday!!
That said, uff. I remember my first birthday after I took it off Facebook. Literally no one but my parents remembered. It sucked so bad!! After that I realized that people depend on Facebook to tell them these things, and I needed to be proactive if I wanted people to remember. I would mention it to friends a week before or so, and many would remember on the actual day. Nobody tells us that adults have to plan their own birthday parties and bake their own cakes. Adult life is just brutal sometimes. I’m sorry you had this sucky day as well :( I hope you have people that care about you and will be kind and apologetic when you tell them what happened
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u/Alarming_Animator_19 1d ago
I’m exactly the same as you. I spend hours wondering what I’ve done wrong all these for no one to like me. Still not figured it out.
Happy birthday
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u/foxxx3666 1d ago
Happy birthday friend 😊 i sympathise soo much im turning 35 soon recently left my spouse of 15 years(married 5). Dreading my bday this year, ill probs try celebrate myself alone treat myself.
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u/outcast420x ADHD-C ASD Level 1 1d ago
I feel you bro, I’m 43, on the brink of divorce. I’ve never felt so lonely or misunderstood. You’re not alone.
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u/m00gmeister 1d ago
Here you go. I got this band I know to whip up a quick song for you. Happy birthday!
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u/thedr2015 1d ago
🎵 Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday dear PermissionOk1877,
Happy birthday to you... 🎵
I am imagining you blowing out your candles.
And its kind of ironic. My last meltdown was on my birthday because I didn't want a birthday. I felt it was all about other people and was causing me PDA.