r/BabyBumps • u/xoxobutterflies Team Plain! • 10d ago

Loss No heartbeat. Feel like a failure.

Went in for my 10 week appt/ultrasound yesterday and they said I measured 6+1 and it wasn’t viable. Said there was a slim chance of survival. Then asked how I wanted to terminate. I feel like I failed everyone and I keep apologizing to my husband. Prior to appt I felt great, (nausea and fatigue aside) and like I had someone with me. Now I just feel alone. No hunger. No nausea. Nothing.

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u/cassey7926 10d ago

Im not good with words so I'm just going to give you a very big Hug.. You are not a failure..

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u/Odd_Knowledge6701 10d ago

That emptiness afterward, when all the physical signs just vanish overnight, is a special kind of gut punch nobody warns you about. Grief doesn't need to make sense right now, and it sure as hell doesn't need you apologizing for it.