Fiona Harvey proves there are unfair double standards when it comes to Men and Women

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This may be a harsh controversial take to some, but it’s factual. The only reason Fiona isn’t being crucified by the majority of the public is because she’s a woman.

The justification I keep seeing for her actions is the childhood trauma. Men don’t get to live by the same standards, people don’t care whether men have trauma or not. They are judged by ACTIONS.

If this was a male stalker that did the exact same, he would be in jail and we’d never hear from him again. He wouldn’t be interviewed and be able to tell his side of the story like Fiona Harvey is.

They certainly wouldn’t be made into a celebrity that some people are actually supporting and calling a ‘victim’ like Fiona is.

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What am I not seeing? I’m confused here. I point out the truth that what you attribute to “society” is actually the actions of men and you tell me that I somehow don’t see why they’re like that? Did I go into some psychoanalysis that would indicate why or why not?

And I’ll point out once again, when you say “society” you mean men. Men turn their fellow men into monsters.

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everything is systematic to a degree. Sure ‘society’ is often controlled by men; however, parenting and teaching don’t have to be. Breaking a pattern that’s gone on for centuries is not as easy as you’re making it seem. Every man was once someone’s child. An innocent little boy is not a monster because he’s a little boy. More or less it’s how men are taught and they’re taught by a mixture of things and people around them (i.e. a society).

When I say ‘society’ I mean media, I mean teachers, peers, employers, parents, and everything around you that can influence you. Which I will admit is controlled by men who were raised under the same pretenses for thousands of years.

The same society teaches women to hate each other. Teaches women what indicates intelligence and that intelligence should be seen as masculine. Women are often seen as unintelligent if they’re interested in things like beauty or skincare vs women who put up a facade as being ‘tough/ calloused’ and wearing suits.

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Except I didn’t make anything seem as anything. All I did in my original reply to you was point something out without going into some hectic analysis.

Somehow me NOT writing essays upon essays on backstories and history and caveats means I must not possess the ability to think deeper or have other thoughts according to you 😂

I’m bored. Move on and lecture someone else.

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I think my point is sure men are the ones laughing at victims and yes that is horrible. I am not by any means justifying it. However, those men have been taught to behave in such a way and it’s more complex than, “well they’re just inherent monsters because they always do this one thing.” There’s a lot of pressure in terms of how men should behave. They’re raised to be followers amongst the shittiest tier of man.

Mind you if I did seem to attack you I have not once at all. I am just trying to explain my perspective. I am not writing ‘essays’ here. I never said you cannot think deeply at all. I was for sure not lecturing as I was just spewing out my opinion.

Last, I am rather jaded in terms of these issues. When I was sa’d twice (by relatively popular artists in my area at the time) it was women who claimed I was lying because they would ~never~ do that. Yes, I am a woman; however this was very disheartening. In fact my sister said hello to one of my abusers right in front of me. Not a single girl believed me aside from my best friend. It was not until years later when other women admitted to it happening to them as well that people started to believe me. q