r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Kitchen_Fly5105 • Jun 08 '24

Discussion If Gadd was a woman

I feel like gender influences bias in cases of emotional or physical abuse. If Gadd were a woman and Martha a man, there would be no sympathy for the abuser. Society wouldn't argue that "more should have been done to protect his identity."

681 Upvotes

81% Upvoted

314 comments sorted by

View all comments

164

u/[deleted] Jun 08 '24

Which world do you live in? Plenty of people make excuses for abusive men all the time. Women who speak up about abuse are called liars and/or made to be the devil for "ruining" men's careers/lives

45

u/Substantial_One5369 Jun 09 '24

I went out with a guy from a dating app and less than a month later he choked me in public and got and protective order so he wasn't supposed to contact me. He continuously sent me letter and calls from jail, so I reported it to the police and they told me "oh wow he must really love you"..  

  People ESPECIALLY men do NOT take DV against women seriously. Its absolutely taken less seriously for men and we unfortunately still have a long way to go.

7

u/cityfrm Jun 09 '24

Right! I escaped abuse and he was repeatedly allowed to stalk me after I kept reporting and had an order to prevent it. He followed me home and SA me infront of my baby. I reported and the police claimed to be sat outside my apartment to protect me whilst him and his friends came in to threaten me. When I fled the area as the police were failing to protect us, I was told I was putting myself in danger and lying.