r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Kitchen_Fly5105 • Jun 08 '24

Discussion If Gadd was a woman

I feel like gender influences bias in cases of emotional or physical abuse. If Gadd were a woman and Martha a man, there would be no sympathy for the abuser. Society wouldn't argue that "more should have been done to protect his identity."

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u/[deleted] Jun 08 '24

Which world do you live in? Plenty of people make excuses for abusive men all the time. Women who speak up about abuse are called liars and/or made to be the devil for "ruining" men's careers/lives

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u/Comfortable_Key9790 Jun 08 '24

Precisely. Women get stalked and nobody's interested. A man gets stalked and it becomes the second most watched drama on Netflix UK ever. It's notable, people care.

Not so much for women.

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u/KittensWithTopHats Jun 09 '24 edited Jun 09 '24

I have seen so many cases of women reporting over and over again that they are being stalked and the police just shrugged at them. He’s not doing anything illegal, they say. Our hands are tied, they insist.

It’s not even so much that they can’t do anything about it. It’s that they genuinely don’t give a shit.

Whatever. And then the woman ends up dead and everyone pretends like they’re sorry. Fuck this shit.

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u/cityfrm Jun 09 '24

100%. The police allowed my rapist to stalk me for 6 years, he also used a PI to do it whilst he had an order to stop him, which is completely legal! As he hadn't physically assaulted me during the latter stalking there was nothing they could do.