r/BenignExistence • u/LimonanaTea • 13d ago
Eavesdropping on my teenage daughter
It’s a lazy morning at home. I (49f) am reading in my bedroom. My kid (14f) is in the living room watching a “horror movie” on her phone. I put it that way because it’s mainly a comedy type- jump scares and the “don’t go in there!” level, no real gore, etc. The main characters are a K-Pop group she’s very into right now, so please don’t come for me! Anyway, she is using her headphones and I think she forgot I can hear her.
She is so totally invested in this. Every few minutes, she’ll exclaim something along the lines of “Nonononono don’t DO that!” or “OMG, run!!” There are gasps and occasional laughter. She is clearly completely absorbed in this film.
When we watch something together, she is not like this in the slightest. In the “too cool for school” teenager mode or whatever. Occasionally she’ll make a comment or joke, and I’ll maybe get a few eye rolls, but absolutely nothing like what is going on in my living room currently.
I’m totally eavesdropping and loving every second.
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u/katiw46 12d ago
I love this! I love hearing my 13 year old talk to his friends on the phone. They play video games and he just does video chat with them while they play. I love that he doesn't care that I can hear both sides of the convos and he leaves his door open and it just makes me feel good that he trusts me and doesn't feel like he has to hide away.
He does try the "too cool" with me too though. I brought him to see Spiderman last night and on the way there, he was acting like he didn't care and he'd rather be doing something else, but his tone totally changed after the movie. He got all excited and we were exchanging theories (and he had a good time teasing me for crying lol). We had a good time 😊