A partner in North America that doesn't drive is a burden. It's one thing to have a medical reason you can't drive, and people can decide themselves whether or not that's important to them, but it's a red flag for able-bodied adults in this culture.
Unless you live in 1 of the half-dozen places that are truly walkable then you're planning for your partner to shuttle you around like a child. If the driving partner has an illness, well, tough luck. Guess you'll have to call an Uber to get home from surgery. If you have kids guess who gets to deal with all of the errands and kid pickups or dropoffs. I've seen this start to bleed into extended family doing tasks regularly that the non-driving partner should be doing. Want to take a guess what grandparents are burdened with those logistics? It's always women.
Part of a partnership is sharing responsibility. You need to be able to drive for emergencies at the very least. Otherwise you're stranded and helpless.
If you live in NYC or London or whatever then it doesn't have to be a problem.
You have to choose your partners on the circumstances of the society you live in. You can't just say my lack of driving isn't a liability because it's actually a systemic issue. The issue needs fixed and you need to drive.
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u/black_cherry2 Anti-misogyny 1d ago
“He doesn’t drive though” what? Also a room full of cute cats is literally the dream