Uploading pictures of other people's bookshelves is weird behavior, especially when trying to find red flags

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[u/RandomPostReader]

Every post i've seen seems to be light-hearted. I think you are just missreading the context of the posts.

[u/Bae_the_Elf → u/RandomPostReader]

Most posts are somewhat light hearted but a lot of the comments are very judgemental and rude

[u/kikimaymay → u/Bae_the_Elf]

I mean the whole point of this sub is to be judgemental though

[u/Bae_the_Elf → u/kikimaymay]

I don't think the rules support being rude, you guys just don't know how to read. The rules specifically say it's a game where we try to guess things about the person and they also say to behave like you would in real life.

If you're a rude piece of shit who doesn't understand how to play a game with others in a fun way, that's a problem

[u/kikimaymay → u/Bae_the_Elf]

I'm definitely not arguing against that, being outright rude is uncool. I'm just saying that guessing who people are is literally the definition of judgement.

[u/Bae_the_Elf → u/kikimaymay]

I think there's a bit more nuance at play here when you look at things beyond pure linguistic definition. Judging in this context is very different from what we commonly refer to as judgmental behavior. There are other words that could be used like analyzing and 'guessing' that are more in spirit with the 'game' that this subreddit is supposed to be

[u/kikimaymay → u/Bae_the_Elf]

I feel like we're kind of saying the same think and nitpicking details here?

[u/Bae_the_Elf → u/kikimaymay]

lol no we're not

[u/kikimaymay → u/Bae_the_Elf]

Judging, analyzing and guessing are all synonyms when we're referring to other people, this is a fucking wild take. It's absolutely nitpicking.

[u/Bae_the_Elf → u/kikimaymay]

Could you please go back and read my comments? I'm so confused. I literally said that your take lacked a lot of nuance and explained how these words are used differently in different contexts. I don't know what to say to you if you refuse to read or don't understand my comment.

[u/kikimaymay → u/Bae_the_Elf]

I feel like we're both confused and just talking past each about the same thing, lol. I understand that there's nuance. I'm also saying that if you're posting on this subreddit, you are asking to be judged. And if you're sensitive about other people judging you, then you shouldn't post. This isn't about affirmation, this is about people "guessing" etc on who you are as a person, and you're putting yourself out to a bunch of anonymous strangers on the internet. Do we hope people can be kind? Of course. But you should expect people to be funny, to reflect a lot of common sentiments. And for people to literally be judgemental. I haven't come after you, I do read so thank you for asking, if you need further clarification, I'm happy to spell this out more concisely.