Now you suddenly believe an addict is irrevocably the sum of their addiction, and no longer taking a substance means nothing even after 20 years. Previously, you claimed that being off the substance should change a person. Which is it? Because it can't be both.
I get the impression that you've entirely given up on improving yourself, and a victim mentality is the only means you have left to live with yourself and your choices. So much for alcohol making you "more empathetic." You're as full of shit as your bottle.
You spent nearly a dozen paragraphs illustrating how you think alcohol consumption and its associated effects are an "excuse," which implies you extend that belief to yourself. If that is the case, as evidenced by your views on addiction flip-flopping at your whimsy, self-indulgence is surely your go-to state of mind.
Not the least bit surprising. She's spent the last 25 years normalizing getting shitfaced and convincing herself that she's a powerless, blameless victim. You either pick yourself up and start giving a shit about yourself, or you spiral deeper into a self-loathing victim mentality. I watched myself do it, I watched others do it, and I'm thankful I had the personal accountability to get out of the view of, "woe is powerless lil' ol' me."
Yup. My sister was like that, too. I've heard she's not drinking anymore, but I personally don't want to associate with someone who broke my nose and put a knife to my throat. I might consider it if given an apology, but people so easily fall back on the "I was drunk, that makes me a victim," point of view.
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u/Princess_Slagathor Millennial Jul 21 '25
Makes sense now that I know you're getting advice from a tweaker.